Untangle
I teach people how to stop hiding and sitting on the sidelines, so they can find pleasure in embodying the life and business they are meant for.
We all know about the shame of hiding - that pit in your stomach. That sharp, jabbing flutter in your chest.
It tells you that you’re a failure when something you do fails.
It tells you you’re not good enough, no matter how many milestones you achieve.
It tells you to hide, self-censor and reject yourself before others have a chance to.
It tells you that you’re uniquely, irredeemably broken.
Being tangled in shame is likely the biggest unspoken life-killer, growth-saboteur, and dream-stealer.
I’m Angela, and for most of my life, shame controlled me and tried to kill me. Throughout most of my childhood and 30’s, I was a professional hider. I was an actress who avoided auditions. I was a crisis interventionist who couldn’t ask to be paid. I didn’t apply to the vast majority of schools I wanted because I would rather stay underpaid than experience rejection.
I was hiding, hiding, hiding- barely surviving because of shame.
I became resigned, thinking of shame as a “chronic disease” that can’t completely be cured, but can be “managed.” I thought if only my life became small enough, I wouldn’t have to experience the chaos of fear, rejection, humiliation, and overwhelm.
It sucked.
Over the last 20 years, I have worked in the complex field of addiction and trauma recovery to help people build resources to emerge from shame and thrive. I have leveraged my personal and professional expertise to build a creative approach to merging all the sciences together- giving people an applicable and accessible way to untangle anything standing in their way of greater aliveness and joy.
If you love my book, private sessions, podcasts, or in-person retreats, this course will expand your tools and untangling practice to develop mastery in realizing your life. If this is your first introduction, you will not be alone. Foundation and repetition are the roots of how we become untangled to thrive. I keep the groups small because I believe we all need help becoming safe enough to be seen, heard, and expressed to untangle shame, heal and thrive.
This program is right for you if:
you are hiding and trying to stay invisible because of trauma and shame, and need tools to feel good enough to show up and be seen
you escape from life’s problems with screens, substances, procrastination, and isolating
you had the chance to show up for your dreams - in the arts, at work, or in your own business, but couldn’t pull it off because the past is holding you back
you have relational, sexual, or childhood trauma that new daily practices would support you to thrive.
This course will teach you:
how triggers are an opportunity to heal childhood wounds and build resources for transformation
how to expand your ability to become seen in ways that produce pleasure, joy, intimacy, and love.
how to ease anxiety, stress, worry, and boredom to become more present
how to communicate in ways that restore self-trust and collect dignity
If you’re ready to create the life you’ve always wanted, you’re in the right place.
I will guide you step by step.
Join me.
By the end of the program:
you will have a working practice to untangle a stuck area with confidence and efficiency.
you will understand why your mind says one thing and your body says another thing.
you will learn how to tune into your body’s wisdom and forgive yourself.
you will have a 3 step process to melt shame, restore aliveness, and access vision.
you will build a personal recovery map to bite-size moving forward in manageable ways.
Who is this for?
humans who struggle to ask what they need and receive what they are worth.
artists and entrepreneurs who feel isolated and scared to put their work out in the world.
empaths who struggle not to collapse their boundaries and receive money.
students who want to emerge stronger from a crisis or a challenge.
anyone who wants to master skills to move out of their own way and claim their purposeful belonging.
Who this isn’t for?
humans struggling to function and have feelings of suicide (If this is you, please know you are not alone. You deserve the help, so please reach out, and I will connect you with resources.)
humans who aren’t willing to look at their part in the co-creation of their life
humans who are engaged in active addiction with substance abuse and domestic violence
MY AIM IS NOTHING SHORT OF HEALING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH SHAME COMPLETELY IN A 5-WEEK INTENSIVE COURSE SO THAT IT CAN NEVER HOLD YOU BACK IN LIFE AGAIN.
Not just offer you some new ways of thinking about shame.
Not give you temporary respite from shame.
Or help you to go through life with a little less shame.
But give you the tools, the somatic experiences, and the practices to liberate you from the painful grip of shame, in all aspects of your life forever.
Despite what society, family, or your mind may have led you to believe, you are not broken. You are not a fraud, a mistake, or a nobody. You are not weak, incapable, or unworthy. You are here for a reason. You can train yourself into a deeper layer of organization, coherence, and awareness. You were born with an innate power to create life, and this power doesn’t exist outside yourself.
You have it within.
TO BE CLEAR:
YOU CAN’T RESOLVE ALL THE UNDERLYING CHILDHOOD AND GENERATIONAL DYNAMICS AND TRAUMAS THAT CREATE THE SOIL CONDITIONS FOR SHAME IN JUST 5 WEEKS.
However, here is what you CAN do:
Learn the framework to recognize when shame is at play. This is a crucial first step, because often, shame disguises itself as just a ‘helpful’ impulse toward self-improvement. Often, shame is an abusive inner voice masquerading as having your best interests at heart- this recognition is the step most people miss in the work.
Understand shame not just as an individual issue, or a problem of your ‘thoughts’, but as the symptom of existing in an intersection of punitive and victimizing systems that undermine the wisdom and vitality of your true self.
Learn a powerful and believable new way of seeing yourself, especially where shame has taken root in ‘diagnosing’ what you think is wrong with you.
Have a deeply felt somatic experience of that new way of seeing yourself, which anchors it into your unconscious patterns and memory to reclaim the part of you that speaks and mobilizes from your deepest truth.
Practice and integrate those neural pathways until they become a solidly accessible new response in your nervous system to help you build a blueprint to become the map, the territory, and the explorer.
With this process, you will not only achieve freedom from shame, but you will have the tools to stop any ‘new’ shame from growing and persisting.
From that place, you can truly, wholly, and permanently live an untangled life. You can move through the world as an untangled being.
In this course, you will be seen, met, and addressed for the totality that you are — a body, mind, as well as spirit.
What I am encouraging: the glory of a fully-expressed YOU in the world, unencumbered by the distorting lies of shame.
I cannot wait to welcome you into this experience.
FEE: $1500
DATES: JANUARY 23- FEBRUARY 20 5 WEEKS
Enrollment is only open for one week: January 10-17. Get your name on the list to be invited to join. Space is limited to the first 30 people.
Meeting with happen on ZOOM
I LOOK FORWARD TO SUPPORTING YOU IN A JOURNEY OF LIFE-ALTERING HEALING AND LIBERATION.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: IS THE DELIVERY OF THE COURSE MORE LECTURE OR EXPERIENTIAL? IS IT INTERACTIVE?
A: Each class will consist of theory, stories, modeling with students to show what it looks like to untangle, and exercises so that each individual can make their own unique experience. It will be experiential to your spirit, mind, and body so that you can build resources to begin feeling anew about yourself and your place in your life.
Q: CAN YOU TELL US MORE ABOUT WHAT WILL BE COVERED?
A: Yes. First, I will introduce you to The Untangle Method, offering a new paradigm of locating shame and untangling it. I will show you its insidious workings by telling stories, providing researched theory, and by walking you through exercises, movements, postures, and techniques.
Next, we will not only show you how shame keeps your authentic experience and self hidden, but we will show you how to access your authentic self by accessing your somatic experience and the part of you that can transform.
From there, you will learn to deepen that experience, unfold the flower of it, and finally express it in movement, sound, and facial expression. This will allow you to make a shift - actually reclaim parts of you that you abandoned long ago or may not even be known.
There are certain specific aspects of self that are often relegated to the unconscious, tangled side - one’s most ’sensitive’/vulnerable self as well as one’s most powerful self. I will take you through guided experiences so that you can access these aspects of self and answer questions to help you if you are having trouble taking the exercises as far as they can.
Finally, we will focus on your more chronic sufferings, difficulties, complexes. Why? Because these are often where shame has the most suppressive impact on our gifts and aliveness.
Again, we’ll be teaching some theory, modeling approaches to accessing our gifts, and taking you through guided exercises so that you can have your own experience.
Q: HOW IS SHAME DIFFERENT FROM THE CHRONIC UNWORTHINESS PEOPLE FEEL?
A: Shame is definitely at the root of that and stops us from mobilizing into our purposeful life.
Q: IS THE UNTANGLE PROGRAM FOR ME IF DON’T HAVE A PROBLEM BUT WANT TO JUST UPLEVEL MY LIFE?
A. Yes. This program is for anyone who wants real change. Many participants join to make more money or want to feel better overall. There are many high-achieving participants who use these tools to fine-tune their competencies.
Q: I CAN'T ATTEND DUE TO MY TIME ZONE. WOULD IT WORK FOR ME IF I JUST WATCHED THE RECORDINGS?
A: Yes, I believe watching others and practicing out loud with yourself leads to transformational change. Everyone is in a different spot and need, so learning to attune to your needs is the work. I respect everyone’s process of learning so what is what most important to me is that you feel supported and safe meeting your particular needs.
Q: WILL THERE BE HOMEWORK?
We all learn differently, so this program will offer many options to integrate the information that best supports you. For some people, this looks like reading and writing, for others, it is dance and movement, and for others, it is mindfulness and somatic practices. I will encourage exploring different ways of engaging the material so that it becomes absorbed into an integrated practice.
I encourage practice, practice, practice. The 3-Steps of Untangle feels like a dance, a waltz, that helps you move stuck into a more synchronized alignment.
Q: IF I CAN’T ATTEND LIVE, CAN I SUBMIT QUESTIONS IN ADVANCE?
A: Absolutely.
Q: DOES IT REALLY HELP? IS IT REALLY POSSIBLE TO BE FREE OF SHAME FOREVER?
A: This is important. Untangling will NOT be a ticket out of the ouchy experience of being human existing on planet earth.
For as long as you are alive, you will feel discomfort, even pain, as your soul rubs up against challenges and growth. That said... I still feel sensations in my body that I USED to call shame... but which I now understand as when "the tension that occurs when the sacred truth of my raw, unedited humanity rubs up unresolved materials that have held me back and I finally get to heal them.”
When you have the understanding and somatic skills to get untangled, you no longer understand the 'ouch' of being alive as evidence of your defectiveness, brokenness, or unworthiness... but a normal part of the human experience. It doesn't oppress or stop you... it teaches you, inspires you, and galvanizes you.
You come to see that the discomfort/pain is not your damnation but one and the same as your spiritual assignment, your medicine, your genius.
Having an embodied understanding of that has been the damn difference between managing a life of crisis and stuckness to having a life of wild creativity and intimacy with myself and others.
Q: HOW LONG WILL WE HAVE ACCESS TO THE RECORDINGS AFTER IT ENDS?
A: Always!
PEOPLE ARE SAYING
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“I am a clinical psychologist, and I give this program 5 STARS. This course is for anyone that wants to be more in tune with their creative soul. Angela is sharing her expertise and first-hand experience with the world—what a wonderful gift to us all. I was in money shame. I struggled to ask my patients to pay me a fair rate. Since this program, I have been able to double my monthly income. It helped me set boundaries and radically reorganize my money relationship. Amazing! Everyone needs an Angela in their life!" I am forever grateful!”
Lisa Robinson
“After taking this course, I can really identify when I am in stress response. I notice the different ways I start responding- when I’m in a fight, flight, or freeze pattern. I’ve learned ways to regulate my response through this program. Little things I do to help me return to present awareness. There is a lot more space inside me to explore, and it is pleasurable. I have clarity. I am moving forward. I am so grateful for this valuable framework which is not only restoring my body but providing peace of mind!”
Susan Tilman
" My wife suggested I work with Angela. I was having problems at work: avoiding, aggression, and disrupting staff meetings. Even though I have a powerful job, I was terrified of losing it. My behavior was destroying my family’s financial security. I was secretly ashamed, which only isolated me. I am grateful for the knowledge and clarity I now enjoy. I feel grounded and assertive in a healthy way. It has been a tremendous help.”
Jeffrey Williams
"Angela’s style of teaching and coaching has been a welcome breath of fresh air. She is so insightful and so logical in her approach to complex subjects. I feel like my awareness of myself has deepened significantly. She has given me a language to express myself, assert my needs in healthy ways! Having skills to break down overwhelm and its peculiar ways into a 3-step process helped me understand life is a practice. Being aware of the trigger, stepping back to access what is really happening, and then moving forward with clarity of action is a game-changer. With Angela's tremendous support, I realize "the practice of life" is an ongoing, living process which beautifully builds upon itself."
Melissa Smith