Join me as we discuss how to alchemize a painful, dreaded experience into a neutral one and into a vibrant colorful one. Untangling is a method to alchemize. And I didn't realize until I shared today in a mastermind group that I had to alchemize my book in 3 Steps.

In this episode, we are going to deconstruct purposeful living. We often need a new framework to realize our purposeful life. It is NOT a one-time event, but a process. Often, when we are stuck or have unresolved relational trauma, we leave behind resources, skills, and talents that can serve us well today.

In today's episode, we are exploring how stuckness is deadness and what we can do to transform it. When we are dead, there is some part of us afraid to come back to life. Instead of fighting stuckness, let's create an environment to allow it to heal us. Join me!

Today I am joined with Reiko Gomez, fiReiko (RAY-co) Feng Shui Expert and Interior Designer, starting her business Reiko Design in 1999. As a trained interior designer from the Parsons School of Design, as well as an advanced Feng Shui specialist certified by the American Feng Shui Institute, Reiko has mastered an approach to physical space that helps clients to overcome obstacles and realize their life goals.

How do we embrace our chaos and disconnection in ways that grow our becoming more in synch, whole with life? How do we develop a language of becoming to embrace the magical side of life? Join me as we navigate these waters together!

When love is tangled, confusing, and triggering, we train ourselves to shut down quickly. However, we stay stuck in life and in our relationships when we don't feel safe to open towards love in healthy ways. Join me as we explore and navigate opening our hearts to love again and again and again.

Do you believe you are not creative? How does creativity link confidence? How can we build more creativity into our problems, clutter, and decision making? Join me today as we discuss creativity in various ways to help up access more resourceful responses.

How do we use the Untangle Method to convert negative energy into creative energy? Join me today!

In today's episode, we are untangling the part of that whispers, "I Can't Handle It." This part often calls the shots on our life with little to no insight. As we learn to untangle our tripwires in our system, we create space to build a new experience, growing capacity to claim life powerfully.

How do learn from the aftermath of the election? How do we reconcile we are divided completely as a Nation? How do we get out of the noise of "the other" and join forces to unite polarizing views? Our political landscape is bifurcated and unintegrated. We don't become well in fragmentation.

In this episode, we are going to create a space for the parts of us that want to come out. We automatically censor parts of ourselves from coming into our life. We live in unconscious agreements to keep these parts away. At one time, they may have caused us humiliation, neediness, shame, and regret.

In this episode, we are going to talk about the power one word, one event, or one thing can have over your life. I will share with you a word that was said to me by my father when I was twelve, the lasting impact, and what I did to transform it.

Why are boundaries so difficult? In today's episode, we are going to explore why we don't assert our boundaries, and what needs to happen to start asserting them in healthy ways. Whether it is a boundary with self-care, bottom-line behaviors, or relationship agreements, we NEED a good relationship with boundaries.

Why are boundaries so difficult? In today's episode, we are going to explore why we don't assert our boundaries, and what needs to happen to start asserting them in healthy ways. Whether it is a boundary with self-care, bottom-line behaviors, or relationship agreements, we NEED a good relationship with boundaries.

During times of interruption, old patterns rise to the surface. What had previously been submerged are now flying inside us and around us. You might be finding yourself more anxious, impatient, acting-out, avoiding, or collapsing. Your body may feel like a siren. Days may feel stuck, heavy, or foggy.

How do we embody greatness during difficult times? How do we take inspiration from others and allow it to inspire us? How do we unite within the brokenness inside of us and with our world at large? Let's join collectively. Let's dissent. In a world where women are expected to comply, I dissent.

In this episode, we are going to talk about the fires devouring parts of our country as a metaphor for the internal fires of hate that fuels chaos and destruction. How do we convert destructive rage into greater connection? How do we access the deeper wisdom of nature to help teach us?

In today's episode, we are speaking with Frieda Edgette about how to harness skills to run more effectively. Frieda is an award-winning leadership coach who formed Courage to Run, a nonpartisan running series and leadership community committed to being healthy to lead effectively in civic life today.

This week I have an amazing guest, GRAMMY-Nominated one-woman orchestra and harpist Deborah Henson-Conant. Deborah is a force in her field. She is a performer, composer, mentor, coach, and innovator. Her signature is an 11lb carbon-fiber electric harp, designed specifically for her by the CAMAC Har Company in France.

I am going to explain why differentiating is critical to health, wholeness, and wellness. Learning to differentiate the chaotic, disorganized part of you from the creative, synchronized part of you is s game-changer. Instead of attacking our problems, we need to organize within a framework that can separate them, study them, learn from them, and decide which one we want to take us forward in life.

Afraid you will miss something better if you commit to a decision? Sick and tired of second-guessing yourself and living in your head's noise? Ambivalence is a life stealer and yet so many of my clients live inside it entrapment. They struggle with responsibility and commitment.

In this episode, I want to scream at the top of my lungs Cut The Crap People! We need to stop managing drama and trauma TODAY! Many of us could be having a HUGE impact on our lives financially, emotionally, and relationally. But we are NOT!

Why is clarity so complicated? Why is it difficult for so many of us to become clear? Greater clarity requires radical responsibility. For many of us, our desires have created complicated issues so we have trained ourselves to disconnect.

When times are challenging, how do you keep momentum? Momentum is a very masculine word that can mean chasing power, money, and ambition. But it can also mean someone is deeply connected to their purposeful vision. In this episode, we are going to tease out these differing experiences.

In today's episode, we are diving into the importance of art, flowers, and nature. Why it is essential to put ourselves into experiences that blow our minds. We are going to discuss amazing flowers, how they have MORE senses than humans and how they are able to remember, integrate, and respond to threats.

I am talking about Harpist, Deborah Henson-Conant incredible grammy-nominated concert, "Invention & Alchemy". How she uses stories and imagination to deconstruct the harp to ignite peace, freedom, and belonging. And how we need to befriend chaos and tune into the instruments of our bodies. When our bodies hold onto unconscious wars, they create chaotic symphonies.

What is your relationship with the virus COVID-19? In this episode, I am going to discuss threat responses with our Covid-19 relationship. All our bodies have a relationship with Covid-19. For some people, it sparks outrage, others terror. Whatever the case, it is critical to see how your relationship is impacting your life and organizing either resourceful or unhelpful behaviors.

Whiteness is like an addiction: cunning, powerful, baffling. Many of us are waking up from a Whiteness morphine drip. It is confusing, disorientating, and liberating. I am working with the work Whiteness to help people locate their unconscious relationship with it. When you think about it, none of our problems are technically difficult to explain.

In this episode, we are going to look at how denial keeps a system in place. I am going to talk about White Fragility and how we can hide behind the "good person", the "non-racist", the "one who has no problems" and YET we are in total denial.

Let's talk about Southern Racism. In this episode, I am sharing my Southern shame and the struggles of racism I had to confront within my family. Let's talk about people who enable old systems fo racism to stay in motion. Let's get uncomfortable and look are our own voiceless enabling.

In this episode, we are diving into coupleship shame and what to do about it. Many times we stay stuck in the shame, not sure how to mobilize into a harmonious union again. Things need to get addressed, issues need to be voiced in a healthy way, and space needed to help to discover each other again.

In this episode, I am going to teach you how to UNTANGLE a trigger. Whether it is flight anxiety, asking for a raise, asserting your needs, WHATEVER! We need to get out of the Shark Waters of emotional triggers. We need to find new land to support our life more optimally.

How do we unlock ourselves from shutting down or thaw a freeze? Many of us, struggle to stay connected. We trained ourselves early in life to shut down or freeze to survive overwhelming sensations. But that doesn't mean we need to build a life around a shut-down state!

Let's talk about Mother's Day and the need for mothering. Why do we become unavailable for mothering? What is the difference between fixing ourselves and healthy mothering? How do we cultivate healthy internal mothering to crawl us into new experiences?

Imagination is the ability to engage with present reality and form a mental image of something that is not perceived through the five senses. Our imagination can hijack us in unhelpful ways or we can learn skills to master resourceful imagination. Everyone possesses a certain degree of imagination ability.

In this episode, we will explore our relationship to medicine. What is your medicine? Some of us try to find medicine in booze, pills, donuts, or shopping. This medicine is trying to buffer isolation, pain, confusion, disconnection. Often, we try to control or dominate these behaviors because part of us is terrified to let them go.

Our response to a crisis or a difficult challenge is EVERYTHING. When we are stuck in unconscious reactive patterns, we miss gathering the In-Between Space needed to transform. Instead of fighting with reality, we need to organize it differently. We need to stabilize our unconscious threats to access a more-in-depth organizing intelligence.

In this episode, we reconnect our body's intelligence with time. Time is not a heavy, complicated relationship. It is always there, always waiting for our undivided attention. Many of us need to remember a time before the trauma of life and fear overtook our experiences.

In this episode, we will explore how poetry and creative expression helps us connect in ways the mind cannot. We will extend our conversation on why we all need stabilizing floors to access creativity. We need to build skills to hold the terrifying as well as the beautify.

In this episode, we are locating creative ways to organize inside of a stressful time. We become more robust as we confront challenges in new ways. This is a time to work differently, to organize your time, physical, emotional, and mental health actively.

I have been helping people convert crisis states into thriving states for over 20 years: financial crisis, addiction, divorce, loss, etc. In this episode, we will learn why we need to regulate our response to systematic collapses in order to thrive in the face of difficulty.

In this episode, we are diving into commitment. Let's locate what stops us from 100 percent commitment. We waste so much time, energy living in the ambivalence of a 99 percent or 50 percent commitment. It is stressful. It consumes our energy without producing results. And it makes us feel like failures.

In this episode, we are exploring the cycles of panic with the stock market, coronavirus, and global systems and how people, as well as the stock market, organize intelligence and data to establish a bottom.

In this episode, we are diving into the brain science of trauma to look at it through the lens of our current political system. Political systems, family systems, and organizational systems are all impacted by unconscious trauma bonding. The swing voter is the neutral brain that allows for optimal organization.

In this episode, we are going to explore our money story. Most of us do not know our money story. Our money story is wired into us through our early childhood relationships. They are often murky, confusing, and create a lifetime of shame.

In this episode, we are waking up to the emotion of worry. Instead of managing, numbing, and attacking worry, we are going to learn skills to befriend worry. Worry is a symptom of a disorganized system. Worry is an invitation to locate an area in our life that needs more of our attention.

In this episode, we're diving deep into triggers. Why we avoid, deny, and fight them and what we can do about it. We'll talk about lessons from Kobe Bryant's airballs in 1997 how his response to this humiliating, embarrassing trigger allowed him to locate the weak spot to transform into success.

When you are stuck in the bonds of the past, you are recreating. The Untangle Method has walked you through the first 2 steps, The Tangled Self & The Organize Self to clear space for the Creative Self. The Creative Self is the Part of us understands how to expand connectedness in ways that restore trust and collect dignity.

The episode builds on Step One, the Tangled Self. If you haven't listened to Part 1, please do so! Organizer Self is the part of us that sets the stage to UNWIND from the Tangled Self part of us to create space for new experiences. We don't get well managing the Tangled Self System.

Ep # 3 The Tangled Self In this episode, I am talking about the Tangled Self System, the part of us that is winning the stinky results in our life. Yes, our Tangled Self is Winning! The weight, the underearning, the debt, the relapse is winning. Often, we don't think we can win anything.

Ep # 2 Stop The Self-Hate. Restore Your Dignity In this episode, I am talking about how Punitive Self Talk creates trauma bonds and victim states. And how our body, NOT our mind unwinds us from it. Punitiveness organizes our bodies into triggers of unsafety, reactivity, and disorganization.

Welcome to the very first episode of The Untangle & Thrive Podcast. I am the CEO and founder of Untangle & Thrive, a company dedicated to helping people emerge from hiding and thrive. I wanted to give you a chance to get to know me before you ever sign up for any of our training courses.