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Disorganized or Blooming?

“The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin

Hiding hurts. When we hide, we disappear from our self, numb out with destructive behaviors and ache silently in shame.

As we stay in hiding cycles, we chop ourselves from the creative agency needed to grow a thriving life.

Blooming is the opposite of hiding.  Blooming is an artistry which encourages vibrant visibility. Blooming creates openings for buds to embody their unique majestic blossom. 

A flower’s blossom can awaken a presence for the magical nature of living. This poetic grace captures a natural significance and an ethereal beauty for becoming phenomenally seen. 

In life, as with flowers, not all buds, or parts of us, have a blossom. 

We become disorganized when we attack vulnerable buds, or vulnerable parts of us, demanding they bloom.  I call these parts, the Tangled Self. This unhelpful attempt drives suffering, more forms of hiding. 

If we stay buried in this tangled approach, we deplete valuable resources of time, energy and mental flexibility. 

This approach not only hijacks our organization, but it also blocks present awareness, or flowering consciousness, for the available buds, other parts of us, excited to bloom. I call these other parts of our being, the Creative Self. 

Learning to differentiate between the Tangled Self or the Creative Self, to integrate them into present wholeness is what I call craft of untangling.

We learn to do this through the Untangle Method.    

As we learn to build a practice which actively identifies our Tangled Self from our Creative Self, we gather an organizing presence for an awakened life.  

Our brains need help to better link and integrate between the regions of our brain.  Discerning between our parts, helps the brain to organize resourcefully.    

Our Tangled Part is hidden in the body and unconscious emotional life.  It is wired for danger. 

Our Creative Self is activated through the Untangle Method and is accessed through our executive function region.

Learning to link and integrate our differentiating parts is life changing. This skill provides an organizing framework to access wholeness, vibrancy and purposeful living.  To learn more, check out my life skills program. 

If you crave a new organizing language to emerge from hiding as well as life skills to build a capacity to thrive, CLICK HERE

Angela McKinney is a life coach whose teachings span a global client base and are regularly featured in leading media outlets. Untangle & Thrive mission is to help millions of people come out of the shadows of hiding and gather skills to organize a thriving life.  Through in-person coaching, online classes and newsletters, she gives clients the skills they need to reorganize the whispers of their tangled parts to access vibrancy, visibility and aliveness within their lives and careers.  Join the Untangle & Thrive community to receive the first section of my new book here!  

Angela Mckinney